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Why are we afraid to love others? Is it because humans aren’t dependable? Is it because persons are becoming less trustworthy? Have we already decided that it will only break our hearts and leave us in agonizing pain? Are you scared of rejection? Do you want to know something? Every single pain you imagined from those questions is a possibility. I’m not going to lie and say it isn’t, but guess what, life is full of many instances of agony. Why are we so afraid of this one?
Love Is Like A Roller Coaster
Have you ever watched people ride roller coasters? Some persons are screaming for joy while others for dear life. Some persons start off having fun then end up puking everywhere the rest of the journey. You might be thinking, wow! You want to encourage me to love, and you start with that! Yes, that’s the example I decided to go with because to me, that is what love is like.
Roller coasters are filled with many ups and downs. For persons who live for the thrill, it seems like nothing to repeatedly go for a ride. For persons like me, it’s a challenge to build enough courage to go for another ride. It’s quite understandable. These rides are built on metals rising way up into the sky. You sit inside a little metal contraption, which you’re supposed to just trust. Then it rises way up, slowly, building up your anxiety. When it reaches the peak, it rushes down the rails sending you left, right, and center! Each time you go for a ride and hit a twist or turn, there’s a different feeling. That is what I think love is like.
Roller coasters can be scary, and so can love. When various situations arise, you have no idea how to feel or what to do. You decide to trust someone to carry you safely on a journey of love, but you never know what to expect. It might be fun, or it might be awful. There will be ups and downs and unexpected twists and turns. Do you know what’s so crazy about that? That’s the exact reason why you shouldn’t be afraid to love.
Don’t Be Afraid To Love Others
You might be saying, that’s crazy! How is that a reason to love? Simple, loving others is like everything else in life. It’s a gamble. Doing a test, you either pass, or you fail. Applying for a job, you can get accepted or rejected. Loving others can be the best thing to happen to you, but it can also hurt. If its odds are similar to most things around us, why run from it? Yes, maybe this gamble can bring more heartache and pain than the others, but it also can bring immense joy. Just like everything else in life, there isn’t a guarantee of things working out. Yet we do them anyways on the slight chance that maybe, just maybe. If we hide away from everything that caused hurt, then we wouldn’t be living. If we’re willing to gamble with everything else, why not give love a try?
I can’t tell you to love others because they’ll love you back. However, I can say take a chance once in a while. Life is about experiences. I’m not saying you should go out there and look for persons to give your love to. I’m just saying that when you find yourself falling for someone who has proven time and time again that they are what you are searching for and have your best interest at heart, don’t fight it. Don’t be afraid to show them the love they demonstrate to you. Note that I could have easily said if you find yourself falling for someone, then don’t fight it, but I didn’t. That’s because I don’t believe that everyone you find yourself falling for is perfect for you.
However, when you find someone who truly is there for you, then don’t be afraid to love them back. There is no guarantee that that person will stay that way forever but enjoy it while it’s there. Choose to have a positive outlook and enjoy the experience. If there ever comes a time when the joy is over, don’t be afraid to let go and start again. Just like a rollercoaster, you might get on the ride, and it’s the best thing that ever happened to you. Or you might just puke throughout the entire journey. Never let the possibilities of pain hold you back. Some of the greatest pleasures come from large risks.
Learn To Accept Love
A few of us tell ourselves we aren’t worthy of love. Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we put ourselves below others? Stop it! You deserve it just as much as any other person. We say to ourselves, why would someone truly love me? Do you know why we struggle with this? Because we don’t love ourselves. When we don’t love ourselves, it’s hard to even imagine why someone else would love us. Stop it! You deserve to be loved the way you wish. I’m not saying this to make you feel bad about your thoughts or feelings. Remember, we’re in this together. It’s time we stop telling ourselves we don’t deserve to be loved. It’s time to start accepting love and loving those around us. Don’t undermine the love you have to give. It is of value, and so are you.
Don’t Settle Because You’re Afraid To Ride Alone.
It’s okay to go on your journey alone if you don’t find someone qualified to ride the way you wish. You know the way you love, and you know, the way you want to be loved. Don’t compromise your values because society tells you no one will ever love you the way you want. If you want someone who will be loyal to you, then don’t compromise because society tells you everyone will cheat on you. If you like to love with everything you got then don’t become cold because it’s trending. Someone out there wants to be loved the way you choose to love.
If you don’t find someone to love you the way you want, then it’s okay to be alone. You won’t find someone with everything you wish. However, if you have someone with 80% of the main things you want, why focus on the 20%? This, to me, isn’t settling. It’s recognizing that no one will have 100% of what you want. However, if you’re with someone who always disrespects you and tries to bring you down, why stay because they say they love you. Don’t settle because you don’t want to ride alone. Don’t let your desire to hear someone else say they love you make you put up with less than you deserve. Know your worth and demand the love you deserve.