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It’s the month of love. Everywhere you look, hearts of all colors are prancing around. Strawberries are now taking dives into chocolate. Teddy bears, big and small, have come out to play. Everywhere has something encouraging you to show your love to someone special this month. Why is it that we always think someone special refers to someone else, a partner, and not us too?
You’re special too!
A lot of us have heard the saying you have to love yourself first before loving anyone else. Few of us believe that, while some think it’s easier to love others than ourselves. Whatever you think, take some time to appreciate you. Remember that you are special too! Appreciate who you are. Why is it that some of us think everyone else is marvelous and we are not? Everyone has something great about them and adds value to this roller coaster called life.
Do we think less of ourselves because we haven’t achieved as much as others? Is it because we aren’t as smart? Maybe we aren’t creative? Learn to love the way your mind works. Everyone thinks differently. Want to know a secret? That’s okay! Can you imagine the world we would have if we all thought alike? Diversity is fun. Learn to love the way your mind works.
Some of us are intelligent and can grasp concepts within minutes. Some of us are not that quick, but that’s okay. A few of us are brilliantly creative, while others struggle to draw a straight line. Don’t stop loving yourself because you aren’t the way you wish. Everyone’s mind has something to offer. You have something to offer. You may not even know it yet, but when you find it, don’t undermine it because it isn’t as great as you hoped. Never base your self-love on what you have achieved or what you have. Love yourself through your failures and success. These things do not determine who you are!
Embrace Who You Are
Don’t stop loving yourself because you aren’t what people want. If you’re seen as boring because you like to stay at home more than to party, love yourself. When persons class you as loud because you’re the life of the party, love yourself. When you’re seen as fake because you’re naturally bubbly, love yourself. You can try as much as you want to change for those around you but always remember that you can never please everyone. Therefore, ensure you satisfy yourself. Never base your self-love on material things and the opinions of others. Love your inner being.
Self Growth Doesn’t Mean Settling
Love yourself enough to seek growth. You may have many bad habits that can be worked on and changed for the better. Maybe you’re a person who fills their days with negative thoughts. You might even be holding yourself back because you keep undermining your worth. Love yourself enough to work on a better you. If you’re going to change, ensure that you change for yourself. Ensure that such change is for your development and not to fit the expectation of others.
Don’t change who you are to gain the love of others. Someone out there will love you the way you are. Please don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries for yourself. The goal is to be happy with who we are. It’s to find the light within us, to share it with others, and to help others find their light too. Love yourself enough to desire growth.
Show Up For You!
Care for yourself the way you take the time to care for others.
When was the last time you ran a bath for yourself? That message you’re planning on getting someone, when was the last time you got a massage? When was the last time you took the time to relax? Read yourself a book. Have you taken the time to daydream? When was the last time you pulled yourself away from your phone and took a look outside, maybe even went for a walk? Do you even remember the last time you took the time to have a decent meal? Where is your me-time? That let down your hair and go crazy time?
You know what makes you happy. A few of us spend most of our time trying to please everyone else and then neglect ourselves. I’m not saying you shouldn’t go the extra mile for others. I’m just saying remember to go the extra mile for you too. Appreciate yourself. You’re special. You may not believe it now, but that’s okay as long as you decide to start training your mind to see your worth every day. I get it. Some of us are thinking, what’s so special about me? A lot of times, we don’t see it, but those around us can. Little by little, start to appreciate who you are and consistently work to create a better version of that individual.
Are you ready to show the love that you have been giving to others to you? Why should everyone else get all this love from you, and you won’t even spare some for yourself! Put a stop to this today and make an effort to appreciate yourself. Little by little, we will start loving ourselves even though we are under construction. It’s time to start loving ourselves even if we’re major work in progress. We can do this! We always hear if you can’t accept me at my worse, then you don’t deserve me at my best. Let’s apply that to ourselves. Accept yourself now while you work on creating a better you. Show up for yourself. Love yourself.